Discovering softness in business has been a journey for me I haven’t had all the answers and I definitely did not approach it this way when I first started I was go go go!
I wanted to achieve quickly and wanted the results straight away and through my experience now that is just not the way business goes!
I was holding myself up to standards of others who had different, resources, time and experience. And completely ignoring what worked for me!
I realised I was ignoring my need to learn and grow in a different way by wanting everything to happen straight away ( and looking back I was definitely not ready to manage all that I wanted straight away) . I was ignoring that this was the first time I was doing it and this was a massive learning curve. I was working full time and starting a business and giving myself no opportunity to acknowledge how challenging this would be and that growth needed to fit around me and my current world and balance was not even a word I would think about.
But through EFT/Tapping I reconnected with why I wanted to start my own business. I explore why I felt the need to compare to others, and why everything felt like it needed to be a rushed. This was deep work and worth the discoveries that I made. Leading to my ability to move forward in a different way. Bringing softness into business and myself in business was the way to go. I discovered my own timeline for doing things, my own pace and in what worked best worked for me.
Even though I changed my approach I still came across challenges and felt a pressure and in a hurry to “niche” which is a big buzz word in the world of business.
As I become more soft with myself and my business and took the pressure off. I naturally found my niche of working with small business owners. I also discovered that I could be comfortable with that not everything I do has to fit into that niche either. I can play with things and discover what works for me and the people I work with. I know that this will change and develop over time that is okay. I am allowing myself and business to be messy and not have to fit a particular direction. It can just be what it needs to be right now.
So what softness in business actually look like for me?
It means I am on my own journey and that will look like whatever it needs to.
It means I know I am going to come across challenges and difficulties.
I can give myself the space to be with my challenges.
I can give myself compassion and reassure myself that this is the first time that I am doing this.
I also gain support, help and connection from other business owners who know what it’s like.
Celebrating the wins I would never have dreamt to the business I have now and could never have guessed what it would have looked like.
Celebrating the people I meet and the abilities that I have.
Finding big and small ways to celebrate!
And last but no means least having a break when I need to being quite on social media, setting out of office emails and allowing myself to just be, with no expectations, no to list and to have fun and enjoy what is here for me right now.
My journey is still going and I am always learning different ways to bring softness into my business for myself. This makes such a big difference and brings so much more enjoyment into my business that I didn’t know I was missing. Having softness towards myself and my business is the greatest gift I have given to myself!
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